It's okay...

35 weeks pregnant comes with the wonderful combination of change, nerves, and excitement.  I've learned to forgive myself and allow grace in ways I never knew before pregnancy.

A few okays for other pregnant moms-to-be...

It's okay to gain weight, (especially after week 30!) ... it is for a reason- you're participating in God's greatest miracle.

It's okay you can't see your feet... they're swollen anyway.

It's okay to sleep and sleep a lot... knowing this is the last good night's sleep we'll ever have.

It's okay to eat ice cream... maybe just not every night :)

It's okay to sit down... it does not make you weak, people understand.

It's okay to not be okay... some days are not easy and are emotional, and it's okay to cry about it.

It's okay to say no and do less... it helps prepare for parenthood to come.  It won't be the last no.

It's okay to ask for help... when people offer or volunteer, allow them to help.  It is not a sign of vulnerability, it is a sign of awareness and strength.

It's okay to want to wish away the weeks... but don't.  A good friend told me "Pregnancy is nine months for a reason."  Your little one is growing and developing and so are you.

It's okay to plan, prepare, read, decorate... but don't expect it go just so.  I am more okay with not having a plan than ever before in my life.  Learn how to be prepared but relinquish control at the same time.

Come on in twenty thirteen...

As the new year begins, 2013 will be a year of new beginnings in many ways.  We will welcome our daughter to the world in the next three months, a moment that will knowingly change our lives forever.  I have so many hopes for myself as a mother, for us as new parents and for our little girl to come.

I hope to enjoy the moments before THE moment of her birth.  To embrace the ups and downs of the last trimester.  To enjoy the quiet and simplicity of life before we begin growing our family.  These moments are rare and life will be changed forever sooner than later.

I hope to learn as I go.  In no way do I have this whole parenting thing figured out, nor do I expect to!  I hope to be prepared, knowledgeable  and educated; without expecting to make perfect steps along the way.  I am learning to accept that it is okay to make mistakes and learn as we go.  I hope our daughter will learn this lesson from her parents as we mess up, find grace, and move forward in life.

I hope to find the balance between work and family.  Moving from pouring my identity into my occupation toward balancing both my calling, passion, and love.  I hope to balance my time and use each moment wisely during the work day and make my time at home priority.  & if it doesn't work out perfectly, to be okay with that as well.

I hope to embrace this gift.  Being a mother is a gift and I hope to enjoy each moment, including the pregnancy weeks to come.  I hope even in the wee hours of 2 am screaming baby, tired mom, no sleep coma, I hope to appreciate the moment and the opportunity to be a mother and to have that screaming baby in the middle of the night.

What a year it will be!! Come on in twenty thirteen... 

the hunt for jeans

Some girls love jeans.  They can dress them up or down, they just throw them on and look great.  Me, on the other hand, I do not love jeans.  I never have and probably never will.  I want jeans to fit perfectly and to be less than $50.  Hard to find.  Add my beautiful preggo belly, this hunt just intensified ten times!

My pre-pregnancy jeans of choice were a random super clearance skinny crop pair from Ann Taylor Loft.  I could wear them in the summer/spring and winter with boots.  Golden.  My splurge faves were Paige Premium and Citizens, both which I had to have altered for being shorter than most.  Don't get me wrong, I have over 10 pairs of jeans in my closet, but I always come back to those 3.
photo credit: 6pm.com

So, now we come to the pregnant version of me.  I made those jeans last as long as possible with the Be Band from Target.  Thank goodness to whoever invented that thing!  This weekend, I reached my max, my regular jeans just aren't making the cut anymore at 23 weeks.  Some women can wear their regular jeans all through pregnancy and feel great and look great, and I am more than happy for you (aka secretly jealous), but that is not me.  I embrace it, I love it, I just needed some jeans!

My hunt- I started with my 2 go tos for maternity.
Stop 1: Old Navy. Huge fail.  I tried on maternity skinny, curvy, boot cut, regular, you name it.  All awful.  Painful, in fact, to even attempt!  They may be $20-40, but not happening.

Stop 2: Target.  Just looking at the rack stressed me out.  2 pairs. Really, target?  One pair is the "low panel" version that makes me feel sick looking at it.  The other pair looked too mom jeanish and I didn't even try them on.  Both around $40.

Stop 3: Motherhood Maternity.  Sometimes Motherhood comes through for me, especially with the work clothes.  Online, the jeans were overwhelming.  Too many choices and I needed to try on before.

Stop 4: A Pea in the Pod.  Normally, I avoid this store like the plague unless I'm willing to spend $100 or up, but I did my research first.  They have a store named brand, maternity + petite!  I even called our mall's store to be sure they carried these, AND they were on sale post black friday.  Winner.

My sweet trooper of a husband went with me to stop by Pea in the pod, which we jokingly call, pee in the pond. I tried on one pair and a nice buy one get one top, and I felt like a million bucks.  There is something to be said for comfort, style, and nice quality clothes- especially when you are very pregnant.  I did a little dance in the dressing room and walked out to the counter and said, "Strange request- can I wear these clothes out and buy them now?"  I clearly am not the first person to ask, these women went into action.  One cut off my tags, the other had a bag for my other clothes that didn't make the cut to wear home.  I was in and out in a good 15 minutes.  Check for great customer service! This was the pair I ended up with.  And no, I will not be pairing them with 4 inch black heels, ever- much less now :)

photo credit: apeainthepod.com

After weeks of making those favorite pre pregnancy jeans barely/hardly/kindof work, I am glad to say the hunt is over.  Even if I need another pair in the next 4 months, I will probably buy online now that I know the size and fit that works.  I hope for other pregnant ladies out there, you have much more luck than I did.  It was a painful hunt, glad it is over!

Confessions of a No I'm not having Twins pregnant woman

Pregnancy is absolutely wonderful, beautiful, terrifying, and miraculous all at the same time.  I knew to just give my body and mind away to the growth of our beautiful baby girl, what I didn't know was how others would respond to my growing body.  Being a teacher includes even more strange, shocking and inappropriate comments from both adults and adolescents.

Some of the best, coupled with my inner dialogue that tends to come out more and more these days ;)

"Are you sure you're going to make it to March?"
No, I'm not sure, but your comments on how large and round my belly is isn't making this easier, unnamed coworker. 

"Oh, you're having twins!"
No... just one.

"What if Mrs. N has her baby right here in the classroom on the floor?"
I. will. never. ever. ever. deliver my child on the floor of any classroom. 

"Can I touch your belly?"
Um, no, okay, too late.

"Mrs. N is having her twins in a few months."
No, still not having twins. Thanks.

"Just wait, it gets worse."
Really?? I just thought it was blissfully perfect!  

It truly amazes me the permission people believe they have to comment on my belly, body, unborn child, parenting, you name it!  I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt, however, lately, giving the eye and a snarky smile seem more manageable than revealing my inner dialogue in response to these crazy comments.  With all of this said, I am fortunate to have mostly wonderful people who laugh and smile through my pregnancy with me. Many of my sweet friends who have had children or who just like me are patient, caring, and encouraging.  Words of advice: next time you see a pregnant lady, just smile and be kind.  It's for your own benefit, trust me. :)

Primary Secondary Sources

Hello my lovely students!

click on this link  to follow along as we learn about primary & secondary sources. 

What went wrong with those research projects?

Last Spring, I fumbled my way through a research project with my 6th graders.  It was a train-wreck, to say the least.  It lasted 2 weeks longer than expected, it was disorganized and for some reason my students did not know what I wanted from them.  Luckily, we learn from our mistakes.  Common Core emphasizes research and public speaking skills, especially in grades 6-8.  Knowing I had to attempt research projects again, I reconsidered last year's mistakes.  We are in our second week of a unit focused on child slavery.  They seemed very concerned and appalled at the number of child slaves in the world, especially those trafficked into the US.  I thought this would be a great opportunity for students to create a PSA about the topic.  I figured this would be the right time to revive the dreaded Research Project.

Thought I'd share my past mistakes and this year's fixes because I wish someone would have told me beforehand!

Problem last year: I gave students free reign on their choice topic.  This made research and expectations hard to define.

Solution this year: Focusing the project within one focus topic.  We have read multiple narrative and informational texts about child slavery.  They have a sufficient amount of background knowledge prior to starting research.  The topic and expectations are clearly defined.

Problem last year: Students did not know how to navigate through the Internet to find reliable, significant research.

Solution this year: I found a great site that lets you preselect websites for students to visit, Sqworl.com Create a free account and just add the sites you want.  I chose 6 to provide enough options, but to not overwhelm.

Problem last year: Students did not know the steps in order, they relied on me to tell them what to do next.

Solution this year: I am providing each step with details to allow students to become more independent. I used the Word doc from another teacher's PSA project and made it my own.  I've attached my step by step instructions here.

Problem last year: I asked students to keep paper copies and index cards with research.  Papers were lost, messy, or incomplete.

Solution this year: We're going digital!  All documents will be available on Google Docs, final products will be submitted online.  

Of course, we encounter glitches in every plan, but I feel more prepared this year to tackle a research project that is relevant, meaningful, and based on 21st century learning.

Ready, Set, Research!  I'll let you know how it turns out!

Digital literacy vs. tangible books

This summer, I was challenged with an incredible summer course in young adult literacy, thank you Dr. Pendergrass!  We explored adolescent issues and the best ways to teach students through literacy.  Dr. P reminded us "We do not teach literature, we teach students.  We use literacy to teach students."

Given a list of 30ish young adult novels to choose from, I debated whether to buy the hardcover books or purchase them on my ipad.  Being the cheapskate that I am, I went for the cheaper option.  The paperback versions were usually cheaper, (especially on Half.com) but some newly published novels were priced the same on the ipad.  (Check out the Vandy summer YA lit list!)

Now that our course is complete, I am left with the question- which is better? Digital books or tangible books?  My benefits list for each:

photo from wired.com

Digital books: 
- Forget the big box of books! It is all digital, easy to carry
- Easy access: thanks to the iCloud
- Highlighting text couldn't be easier
- Lights up!  No need for a flashlight to read in bed
- Always there, it lasts as long as the ipad is around
- Easy to reference, I love selecting the notes and all the highlighted or bookmarked pages pop up
- Trendy, digital, modern, sleek

Real books:
- There is something special about a new book- the smell, the cover, the pages (Okay, yes I am a nerdy reading teacher.)
- You can pass it along.
- Easy to share. That is part of the joy of reading when you can pass on (literally pass on) a great read to someone else.
- Sticky notes, bookmarks, highlighters, underlining- a good reader interacts with the text.  This seems natural with a real book.
- The fact that I call it a real book shows I may be a bit partial.
- Cheaper?  Usually paperbacks can be found used for a few dollars.
- Bookshelves! are beautiful and make for great home and office decor


So I ask, which is better?  Where will the idea and act of reading be in 5, 10, 15 years?  How do we as teachers prepare our students for the digital generation to come?  I'd love to hear (read) your thoughts! :)